Child Not Home, Not Answering? What to Do, Step by Step
It's eleven, they were due home at ten, and the phone goes straight to voicemail. There's almost always a mundane, harmless explanation. What to do in the first hour, when to stop waiting, what to bring to the police station, and who to call.

Almost every time a child isn't home on time, there's a harmless explanation: their phone died, they missed the bus, they got caught up with friends. But that hour of not knowing feels endless, and on the day it isn't nothing, it helps to have acted fast. This is a guide for that stretch, based on what the police and the ANAR Foundation say.
The first half hour
- Call and text through several channels: a call, WhatsApp, SMS. A calm message (“Tell me when you see this”) works better than ten messages in capital letters.
- Check their location if you share it. Look at the time of the last update: if it says “40 minutes ago,” that's where they were then, not where they are now (why this happens).
- Call their friends and, if you know them, their parents. Ask who they went out with and when they were last seen.
- Go through their usual places: a friend's house, the park, the sports center, the grandparents' house.
- Have someone stay home in case they come back, and keep the landline free if you have one.
When to stop waiting
You don't have to wait 24 hours to report a missing person. That's a myth: Spain's Policía Nacional has publicly debunked it and stresses that speed is essential. Call 112 or go to the nearest police station as soon as:
- It's a young child.
- They have a medical condition, take medication, or are going through a delicate time.
- It's not like them: they never come home late without letting you know.
- Something worries you: an argument, someone who was bothering them, a strange message.
- A reasonable amount of time has passed, you've done everything above, and you still have no news.
Bring a recent photo, the clothes they were wearing, their mobile number, their social media accounts, their friends' names, and the places they usually go. If you share location, show the last position and its time.
116 000: don't go through it alone
116 000 is the European hotline for missing children. In Spain it's run by the ANAR Foundation in collaboration with the Ministry of the Interior: it's free, confidential, and available 24 hours a day, every day, with psychologists, lawyers, and social workers; you can also reach them by chat. They support the family throughout the process and can refer the case to the police or 112 if they see a risk.
One fact that's both reassuring and worrying: according to the ANAR report published in July 2025, of the 1,171 cases of missing or at-risk minors they handled in 2024, 57.6% involved running away or thinking about it, and two out of three were teenagers. Most come back; what matters is what led them to leave.
Before you share their photo
It's the first thing you feel like doing, but talk it over with whoever is handling the case first: a photo of your child online with “missing” on it stays up long after they've come home. If the police find it useful, they'll tell you how to do it.
When they come back
First, the hug. The conversation, the next day and calmly. If they left because of something, punishing without listening makes it more likely they'll leave again. If it was a mix-up, it's a good time to agree on something simple: an “I've arrived” message when they get there, the phone charged when they go out, and what to do if the battery dies. For how to bring it up without it feeling like surveillance: knowing if they've gotten home without calling and “my kid says I'm checking up on them”.
Where an app fits (and where it doesn't)
A family app shortens that first half hour: in Mi Estela you can see whether they've arrived without asking (arrival alerts for their spots are free), the ring around their photo turns red if their phone has been without signal for a while (off or no coverage), with “Walk with me” they can say how long it'll take, and if they don't arrive or say they're okay, the app alerts their people; there's also SOS. But if the phone is off, the app only knows where it was last. No app replaces 112 or the police.
Sources
- El Faro de Ceuta: Police deny that you have to wait 24 hours to report a missing person (Sep 21, 2023; accessed Oct 15, 2026)
- Infocop: ANAR handled more than 1,000 cases of missing minors in 2024 (Jul 15, 2025; accessed Oct 15, 2026)
- Infocop: ANAR's guide “And What If They Don't Come Back?” (Sep 16, 2025; accessed Oct 15, 2026)



